But I think discomfort in and of itself is not always a surefire sign that something immoral is afoot. I can see how you might look at, say, a large age gap between two adults in a sexual dynamic and think, Weird! I’ve had thoughts like that as well. I’m certainly in no place to dictate what makes you uncomfortable. What is a beast if not a daddy by another name? You be the judge.
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There’s a popular children’s movie about it with a singing teapot and a fruity candelabra. There’s a whole genre of beauties falling for beasts. I mean, mainstream pop culture is littered with what I would consider “daddy trope” dynamics. Sure, there can be overlap, but to go from “this fictional character crossed a line in a fictional story” to “and that’s why I’m uncomfortable with people who remind me of that character” suggests, to me, that you took a wrong turn or two navigating this ethical corn maze. You also seem to be conflating real-world relationships with erotica. Come back to me when you reach the cold hard bottom of the slash fic iceberg.
I have read things in the realm of smut that would make the common “daddy fetish” story look like Goodnight Moon. I’m also unsure how, as someone who is reading erotic stories in their spare time, “daddies” is the subject that compelled you to write a letter to your local advice columnist. If it’s not something you’re into, and it’s between two consenting adults, then I don’t see why it’s your business. I could explain what a kink is or do some psychosexual analysis on why some men are into “daddies,” but I think all that would accomplish is bringing us both five minutes closer to our last breaths on earth. I suppose I’m not sure what you want me to do here. I’m sorry, but given the context of your letter, I have to begin with the assertion that being in your mid-20s makes you a “young gay.” It’s certainly not ripe old age, but my brother in Christ, you can walk to Enterprise and rent a Subaru. What are your two cents on this? Am I being prejudiced against relationships with large age gaps? Maybe it’s not always like that and those are just bad examples in which a line is crossed. So when I see father-son style bonding between men being fetishized, for me it comes off as weird and uncomfortable.įor what it’s worth, of the erotic stories I mentioned earlier, they seem to involve a relationship between a teenager or early 20-something and a man who’s at least in his late 30s, if not 40s. Furthermore, I’d like to think we’re equals and that I’m not an authority figure to him or vice versa. Personally, I like to think of a potential boyfriend as being someone around my age who, romantic feelings aside, is like my best friend or brother, not my father. At the same time, I know it’s probably more nuanced than that, and there must be a way to go about doing it consensually. It seems to me like this is a toxic power dynamic that can lead to abuse or sexual exploitation. I looked into it further, and apparently, some young gay men get off on the idea of an older boyfriend who acts as a mentor and father figure.
I’ve encountered this in a few online erotic stories I’ve read recently. I’m a young gay in his mid-20s, and I was wondering: What is it with the kink some gay guys have for daddies?